Girly girl...?

So I as a female… am not the most feminine. I don’t wear make-up unless asked too, I don’t wear dresses and I hardly get out of my pyjamas if I’m honest because of this my life as a young pakistani female has been quite… Interesting you could say. This being because, my parents as well as my whole family are quite old fashioned in believing that a female should be a female. In regards to the whole concept of yes, she should look appealing (make up/ hair and clothing) yes she should be willing to do all these things on top of having a willingness to clean, cook and be well mannered. Now I’m all of these things, well I like to believe that when I need to look good, I scrub up pretty well and that I am quite the cook. I adore cooking, I clean when I need to and I am on my best behaviour, always. I disagree, that this needs to be a constant though. That it is a necessity that I must make an effort 24/7 to look my best and this concept that I WILL clean after everyone. No, that’s absolute blasphemy. I will not clean after you because you assume it is my duty, if you made a mess by gosh darn-it you are going to clean it. It’s like me inviting you to my house for a sleepover and dinner, after ordering pizza you wipe your hands on my bed and throw your plate on the floor. Um, no. It’s not how it works, like I will take your plate from you and take it downstairs yes but don’t you dare not even make an effort to help. It’s basic manners, y’know? Meh, maybe it’s just how I was raised.

Back to my original point! I don’t know. It’s like odd how we as females and even males are socialised into being ‘manly’ or even ‘feminine’ like I don’t know who even created such things? A man is ALLOWED to sing or dance, without being told he is a ‘gay’ but gay isn’t even a term which should be used to describe a negative aspect. Remembering that the word ‘Gay’ does in fact mean ‘Happy’ therefore the usage of the term is complete stupidity same with being a female. If a lady wants to go into sport, or doesn’t like to dress up doesn’t mean she’s a lesbian? It’s absolute (pardon my French) bull-shit. I’m sorry, but it really is. We live in the 21st Century and I think it’s about time that we as individuals are accepted for who we are. It’s hard enough, that we all struggle whether it be within education or lack of job but to be stressing over this ideology of not being good enough because you are “isn’t” enough needs to be terminated, once you start thinking you’re not good enough you force yourself to change. When you do such a thing, it causes conflict within you which then causes you pain… And the last thing I would ever want is anyone to feel pain. I have been through, the whole ‘pretending to be someone I’m not so I can fit in’ stage and to be honest, at the end of the day all you have is yourself and if you can’t even stay true to you how are you going to help anyone else?

Peace & Love

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